Dangers of living an untruthful life.
I would always ask myself "What the World needs the most?" What is that thing that attracts trust in our daily life" and at the end of the day the truth prevails.
"The truth!" Even though this
had occurred for more than a decade, during one of my Job interview, My Boss asked, "What is that one thing you cherish most?" guess what I answered , "Truth" It sounded arrogant and wield but he was
really just puzzled because he was surprise to get such answer from an employee. Well of course, because most of us do not lay that foundation of trust in us. Do you know that answer alone earned me that job opportunity?. Just note this, it does not matter how long you have kept that truth away from your partner, spouse, parents, brothers and sisters, church members etc you can not hide it forever, one day it will come out! The Truth will surely prevail.
Then what about Lies?
Most people don't lie to get into
trouble but they will lie to try to get out of trouble. It can be a form
of self-protection. Some minimize dishonesty by calling it "white lies"
or think that they can say anything they want as long as it is funny.
It is serious when they get so good at dishonesty that they actually
begin to believe themselves. Denial is when you don't even know you are
lying to yourself!
One consequence of lying is that you break
trust with the people around you. Remember the story of the boy who
cried wolf? It got to the point where no one would believe him anymore
and the wolf killed all the sheep. How does someone know that you are
telling the truth if you mix honesty and dishonesty until this has
become a pattern in your life?
It's the same thing with secrets. I
am often surprised by the fact that clients keep secrets from others
and then after they have been caught, they state that they were planning
to come clean. Unfortunately, they are usually found out before they
confess and that makes them seem even more unbelievable.
Years
ago, I heard about a ten year old who was teased on the playground about
being adopted. When she went home and told her parents, they admitted
that this was true. She never felt that she could trust them again and
just asked "What else are you hiding from me?" Secrets can cause
life-long issues.
If you are doing something that you need to hide, chances are that you are up to no good!
Oh,
I am not trying to be judgmental. If you don't really care about your
reputation or how others view you, then just keep on going in the same
direction.
If, on the other hand, you want things to change
so that you will be believed and trusted in the future, then it is time
to make a commitment that from today onward you will quit lying and
keeping secrets. You likely will face some initial rath but, in the long
run the people in your life will likely be glad to know that you have
more to offer than empty promises and more of the same. Don't expect
them to forgive and trust you immediately though. That will take time
because you will have to prove you are serious through your actions and
not just your words.
That is the fact!
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